What to Do When Your Affirmations Are Not Happening

Many times our affirmations are going to come to pass and we just need to take a little more time and remain focused. There are no set timelines for these things and some affirmations take a lot of effort and others come to pass quite easily. Other times the reason for the lack of results is quite simple. Thinking and perceptions about life are conflicting with the affirmation.

For example – Let’s say you are affirming for a great guy to appear in your life and become your romantic partner. You could use an affirmation such as the one below.

“I am living a great life with a great guy who loves me and wants to be with me.”

Seems simple enough. ..Well it might be, or it might be the hardest affirmation you have ever worked on. You will only manifest your dream guy if you allow yourself to do so. Any type of dysfunctional thinking about guys or your ability to get a guy will hinder your affirmations. Now the prospect that you might have some dysfunctional thinking about guys might be a bit overwhelming. How do you make sure your thoughts are not getting in the way? There is an easy answer to all of this and all it takes is the addition of one tiny affirmation.

“I am open to letting my dream guy come into my life.”

Then add your affirmation.

“I am open to letting my dream guy come into my life. I am living a great life with a great guy who loves me and wants to be with me.”

The key all of this is the part of the first affirmation - “I am open...”

Many times opening yourself is all it takes to gently massage your thinking and perceptions into line to allow your affirmations to come to pass. One note, this is not magic. You are simply opening yourself up to letting something happen. This will take time and there might be some pain along the way when you become aware of the thinking patterns and perceptions that you owned that were in conflict with your affirmation.

Remember, you are affirming that you are open to letting that dream guy come into your life. You are not affirming that you are letting that dream guy come into your life (which probably is a total conflict to what you are currently thinking). The opening process is like a tiny bud that slowly, slowly grows and gently, even so gently opens its fragile petals to soak up the sun. The process might take a few weeks, or a few months, or even a few years and even a few relationships that don’t last. Give yourself time for the opening process to happen – otherwise your affirmation will not come to pass. Conflicting thinking and perceptions about life always play a trump card to affirmations – there are no exceptions!

Try adding the phrase “I am open to...” with your affirmations. It really works to break down the conflicting thoughts and get your results coming quicker and quicker.

Affirmation Secrets: How to Hold to Your Affirmations and Keep on Living in the Now

As mentioned, affirmations work best when repeated over and over – but not over and over all day long! The purpose of affirming is to slowly change your inner perceptions about your life – not to blot out your current life situation. Affirming all day long will not help you get to your goal faster. It will put you in automatic mode – you need your mind working, not on mute!

Affirmations work best when your mind is impressionable:

1. First thing in the morning while you are getting awake.

2. Last thing at night when you are falling asleep.

3. During meditation or journaling.

4. While walking alone and enjoying the outdoors.

5. During a visualization time (some do this while meditating).

6. When you are feeling bombarded with thoughts of fear regarding not achieving your affirmation. At these times let the affirmations rip fast and furious to get yourself back in balance.

You will find that affirming three or four times a day is sufficient if you are focused while you are doing the affirming. As mentioned in number six keep the affirmations flowing if you are feeling overwhelmed with fear. At these times the chanting method is actually quite helpful. Remember to turn it off and come back to reality once your feel back in line with your desired outcome.

Other than that go live your life – the one you have right now. Your affirmations will come to pass over time as your inner self becomes more aligned with what you are affirming. Racing through affirmations over and over all day long will only prevent you from seeing what is perfect in your life right now – and keep you focused away from your current reality which you need to attend to if you want it to become something else.

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